Love?

[AspirinE]

How many of you have trully fallen in love? i mean not like teeenagers do, but it actually starts crossing ur mind about how BOTH of u are gonna manage in life.

Me:
Right now, im confused, my folks would be mad pissed if i decide not to move to canada. I am crazy upsessed with a girl, and having perhaps the time of my life, but she has no chance of going to canada too. Its kinda hard to choose. if u think about it, love actually makes ur whole life change. Its kind of frustrating wen u think bout it.

[Curious]

i've been in love for real twice in my entire life - with my ex and my hubby
and i actually know how u feel right now, having to choose whether to go to Canada and pursue your fantastic opportunities there or stay with the girl

my ex was irish and i had a very tough time debating with myself whether to go to Ireland and live with him or stay here in DK and go to university - there was no chance that he could get work here, but it would've cost me a lot of money to go to ireland to study and at the same time i would leave all my friends and family behind, he was a Catholic and I'm from a Protestant country which could cause a lot of problems living in Belfast, and maybe i'd even be stuck in a foreign country if it didn't work out between us, having to finish an education which i might not even be able to use if i ever went back to DK again - it cost me a lot of sleepless nights, and i don't even have any advice for you, you have to rely on what your brain and your heart tells you
but just be sure that if you do decide to stay with her you won't regret it later and hold it against her.

[Fi.J.]

I can perfectly understand you right now..I experienced love and it's something that turns your way of thinkin..

[AspirinE]

I thought of finishing education first, but wat im planing is to study for at least 4 years... 4 years is a lot of time, no one can be loyal during that time, and people change .

But then i start thinking that i might actualy stay were i am, and it seems more reasonale. hard to even think about wen the time comes. Sometimes i wish the colledges will reject me :P

[Curious]

I thought of finishing education first, but wat im planing is to study for at least 4 years... 4 years is a lot of time, no one can be loyal during that time, and people change .

But then i start thinking that i might actualy stay were i am, and it seems more reasonale. hard to even think about wen the time comes. Sometimes i wish the colledges will reject me :P

4 years is a very long time, i tried having a long distance relationship with my ex and that didn't work and we weren't as far apart as you guys are gonna be, we could still visit each other once or twice a year

wishing that colleges would just reject you is really a way of trying to avoid taking responsibility for your life, isn't it but i know what you mean, sometimes the choices we have to make are just not clear cut, there's no way of knowing whether what we choose is the best thing for us, or whether we're gonna end up regretting them later - we just have to take a chance and hope for the best

would it be possible for you to delay going to Canada for half a year or maybe a year? that would give you a bit of time to figure out whether your relationship is really something you wanna go for or not

[AspirinE]

I thought of finishing education first, but wat im planing is to study for at least 4 years... 4 years is a lot of time, no one can be loyal during that time, and people change .

But then i start thinking that i might actualy stay were i am, and it seems more reasonale. hard to even think about wen the time comes. Sometimes i wish the colledges will reject me :P

4 years is a very long time, i tried having a long distance relationship with my ex and that didn't work and we weren't as far apart as you guys are gonna be, we could still visit each other once or twice a year

wishing that colleges would just reject you is really a way of trying to avoid taking responsibility for your life, isn't it but i know what you mean, sometimes the choices we have to make are just not clear cut, there's no way of knowing whether what we choose is the best thing for us, or whether we're gonna end up regretting them later - we just have to take a chance and hope for the best

would it be possible for you to delay going to Canada for half a year or maybe a year? that would give you a bit of time to figure out whether your relationship is really something you wanna go for or not

the thing is- i can take it further and fall even deeper into the trap, but then i try make as less painfull as possible. I had a distant relationship for 1 and a half year (wen coming back to russia) .. but there wernt no obligations for who we were with while im away, but it went as far as her cheating wen i was ther.. distant relationships never work. So far every girl ive met - i had to break off with solely for similar reasons, ive never been on one place longer then 9 months.

I wouldnt want to compromise my life, but ill prolly take chances at it. She has never talked aboutthis too although she knows ill have to choose.
One of my close friends however taught me to make a girl hate me before we break up ( it makes the break less painfull)

[Fi.J.]

4 years..man it's an eternity..
dunno really what to suggest you asp..I had a long distance relationship,too,and it was the time I really fell in love.it lasted til some months ago and I'm prolly still in love with that guy..it's so hard when you break up..when you love someone is really bad to leave..and I think that love is also a kind of possession..dunno..when we split up it was terrible,I just felt lost..it was like I had lost myself,cos that person was like my heart,my soul..it took me a long time to regain a bit of "mental balance"..everything else seemed so superficial and boring and useless..
with that experience I understood that love is soooo important in one's life..prolly I'd choose love..but I don't know what your real purposes are..

[Mr. Cookie]

Love, yeah...I'm inlove...with a girl, and she's inlove with me..and don't worry AspirinE..it ain't no teenage bullshit....

[Curious]

talkina canada ma bf who was just here onna lil holiday went back home to canada but came back for me n hez gonna live here now!!!!!!!!! like jus for me coz he doesnt know anyone else here n we'd only been together like a coupla weeks but he says it jus feels so right so he changed his whole life jus so we could have a chance together n we're in love n im so freakin happy!!!!!!!!!!! [/b][/color]

aww, that's so romantic, congratulations hunnie he must be a really special guy, hope the best for the two of u

[Curious]

the thing is- i can take it further and fall even deeper into the trap, but then i try make as less painfull as possible. I had a distant relationship for 1 and a half year (wen coming back to russia) .. but there wernt no obligations for who we were with while im away, but it went as far as her cheating wen i was ther.. distant relationships never work. So far every girl ive met - i had to break off with solely for similar reasons, ive never been on one place longer then 9 months.

I wouldnt want to compromise my life, but ill prolly take chances at it. She has never talked aboutthis too although she knows ill have to choose.
One of my close friends however taught me to make a girl hate me before we break up ( it makes the break less painfull)

less painful to whom? the pain's not less, it's just different, but ur forcing someone to spend a lot of energy hating u...
i think it's pretty shitty not to just be honest with somebody, ur both adults n even though i know it's not pleasant, heartache is a part of life n as an adult u deal with it n it makes u stronger. i really think u should stop being an a.. to them, they're likely to spend as much time dealing with bad memories as good ones

[AspirinE]

less painful to whom? the pain's not less, it's just different, but ur forcing someone to spend a lot of energy hating u...
i think it's pretty shitty not to just be honest with somebody, ur both adults n even though i know it's not pleasant, heartache is a part of life n as an adult u deal with it n it makes u stronger. i really think u should stop being an a.. to them, they're likely to spend as much time dealing with bad memories as good ones

lol curious u took me tooooo serious there. I only did that once, and i did that just to be mean. The gurl im withnow is certainly not the type i can just brush off. If i do have to split, ill prolly be calling her 861729251612904 times a week.

[Curious]

lol curious u took me tooooo serious there. I only did that once, and i did that just to be mean. The gurl im withnow is certainly not the type i can just brush off. If i do have to split, ill prolly be calling her 861729251612904 times a week.

guess u just hit a nerve with me, i've been with a few assholes myself so i tend to take things seriously when it comes to breakups n hating
btw are u sure that there's actually that many seconds in a week to call her n maybe u should reduce the number of calls to 861729251612899 times a week or u'll just seem like a jealous, possessive creep n scare her away

[$0 R3@L]

ive been in love once....only girl i stayed with for so long.....-_-.....only one that didnt bore me after a week .

But to be honest thinknig about it i dunno if it was love cause i split up with her cause i was tired of havin the same gf for so long....

anyways....my wife is gonna have to be exciting if she intends to keep me for more then a year

[Ivy]

To be honest...I thought I had fallen truly in love with a guy...but the moment he raised his hand to me, the moment he hit the door...I know love as a teenager ain't really true love, but sometimes there's exceptions...it just depends if it's the right time or not...but eventually the right person will come along, and will knock you off your feet and you'll know if it's true or not...sometimes things happen just to build you up stronger...and so you can wait for that right person..it may not seem like anything's there in your future..but just as those clouds seem to be storming into a class five hurricane...the sun seems to shine and your world begins to brighten...but that's only my opinion...

[$0 R3@L]

To be honest...I thought I had fallen truly in love with a guy...but the moment he raised his hand to me, the moment he hit the door...I know love as a teenager ain't really true love, but sometimes there's exceptions...it just depends if it's the right time or not...but eventually the right person will come along, and will knock you off your feet and you'll know if it's true or not...sometimes things happen just to build you up stronger...and so you can wait for that right person..it may not seem like anything's there in your future..but just as those clouds seem to be storming into a class five hurricane...the sun seems to shine and your world begins to brighten...but that's only my opinion...

word to all that^^^