Parent's Not Controlling Their Kids

by **Ivy** » Jul 19th, '06, 20:32

Alright, I got pissed off, and I thought this might be a good debate. My dad is engaged to a woman named Wendy, she's 36, and has 3 kids. Nikki, 19, Jeffrey, 15, and Blake, 8. Nikki lives at home with her momma, she dropped out of highschool at 16, and she doesn't pay any rent or food bills to her mother. That pisses me off alone. Jeffrey, is a jocky, I love him to death, but he's a complete asshole. Blake, he's the one I'm going to be writing about.

Blake is 8 years old, he has ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder). He uses this to his advantage. When my father and his fiancee' are together, they don't can if you set the house on fire, they're to wrapped up in each other to see anybody or anything else.

Scenario - We (me, my father, Wendy, and Blake) were all on the miliary base and were at the Commisary (that's where you can buy food and drinks, like a Super Walmart or Food Lion). Blake saw a hotwheel he wanted, and my dad and Wendy were "ignoring" him. He's 8 years old, he dropped on the floor, screamed bloody murder, and spun around in circles. The kind of shit you see on tv. He kicked shit off the shelves and everything. I looked at our parents, who were talking and not noticing anything. I walked away from where I was, walked over to him. I grabbed his arm, he kicked me, I kicked him back and he quickly stopped kicking at me. I jerked him up and he stood in front of me screaming. I gave him 4 warnings to shut up and quit screaming or he'd pay the price. Finally I looked at him and said, 4 balls, you ain't walking to first base. I slapped him hard across the face and everyone was looking at us. He stopped screaming and just looked at me. Now, are parents noticed us and they walked over and started screaming at me for laying a hand on him. I said, "Well if you learn to control your child better, I wouldn't have to do your dirty work." My dad proceeded to scream at me, and I looked at him and gave him 4 warnings to shut up, I lost my temper. I stared him in the eyes and spoke so angerily at him, "And you call yourself a parent. And you wonder why I turned out the way I am. The reason you get so mad at me, is because you're looking at a spitting image of yourself. I've grown up just like you, and it scares you. Because you're trying so desperately to hide that side of you from Wendy. But it'll show one day, you can't keep hiding forever, I assure you." He had tears in his eyes and he turned and Wendy and him continued to shop. Blake was still standing their looking at me. I looked at him and he spoke, "Jeffrey always said you were a bitch!" I smiled, "Oh really?"...I slapped him across the face again. "You watch your mouth. I used to let you talk like that around me, because I thought you were a little more mature, but I was entirely wrong. Don't ever use that language until you can prove to me that you aren't what I and everyone else just saw."

Now, did I do the right thing? Should parents control their kids instead of ignore them or use some disorder as an excuse? What's your view on this?

by **Mr. Cookie** » Jul 19th, '06, 20:35

didn't read it...but I think that parents should control their kids better...

by **DC4952** » Jul 19th, '06, 20:40

The white parents need to controll their kids the most.

by **Lil Pimp Tell 'Em** » Jul 19th, '06, 20:41

..i really dont know what to say ... im speechless

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by **Hunneh_Buns** » Jul 19th, '06, 20:41

I think you did the right thing, and parents do need to control their kids better.

And umm usually it's 3 warnings and not 4 :whistle:

by **Ivy** » Jul 19th, '06, 20:45

Hunneh_Buns wrote:I think you did the right thing, and parents do need to control their kids better.

And umm usually it's 3 warnings and not 4

Yeah, well I have a little bigger heart? :whistle:

by **MuNxMuN** » Jul 19th, '06, 21:13

well i'm not sure but if it was my brother i'd ignore him :-k

but yea parents do need to control their kids better....like my brother can get out of a lot of things just cause he's younger and "he doesn't know better" :roll:

i would never smack my brother in public.....i'd threaten him :happy:

cause i'd get in less trouble and it wouldn't cause a scene :sweating:

by **yoshi** » Jul 19th, '06, 21:14

yeah, i think they should. shit pisses me off when i hear stuff like "2 little boys fall out of the window, they were 2 and 3 years old, their mother and her fiance were drunk" - today's news. :confusion:

wtf is going on?! how can shit like that happen in XXI century?!?!?!?! i think you did the right thing. they should pay more attention on that kid, since he's got ADHD..

i hate when my bro does whatever he wants and uses words, which meaning he doesn't even know, and my mum is sometimes like "ohhh, just don't listen to him" - fine, let's wait till he starts calling you names. i'm gonna tell her the same lmaof :shifty:

but umm.. yeah, people should pay attention on their kids to show them right way, teach how to respect other people, see the difference between bad and right things and just to prevent some shit that might be a real tragedy.. :confusion:

by **Coccoa** » Jul 19th, '06, 22:43

Thing is....if your think your parents dont raise you right, leave em back. That's why i never listened to my father. Thought he wasnt saying the right thing. It was after awhile till i figured out i was wrong.

by **Mr. Cookie** » Jul 19th, '06, 22:52

finally I read all that...

and yeah you did the right thing...

by **Ivy** » Jul 19th, '06, 23:00

Mr. Nation wrote:finally I read all that...

and yeah you did the right thing...

I'm glad some people agree with me... :flower:

by **katastrophe** » Jul 19th, '06, 23:59

i think parents should control their kids but to an extent. u did the right thing

by **Nick419** » Jul 20th, '06, 03:37

lmao after reading that i think your kids will be afraid of u! :laughing:

but for my answer , parents should control there kids but only to a certain extent. cause if u get to strict with them and try to control them to much they will just want u to lay the fuck off and wont be able to stand u, there for i vote no. cause if u dont let ur kids make their own choices they wont come up right.

by **Ivy** » Jul 20th, '06, 14:43

eminemfan419 wrote:lmao after reading that i think your kids will be afraid of u!

The reason I treat him so badly is he gets on my ever-lasting-nerve...other than that, I would never do that to my own kid unless they pushed the last limit, mine will be spoiled rotten :smoking:

Angie wrote:i agree i hate when this happen id be so piss if my kid ever do that id beat him till he turned purple hey a beatn don kill no one i got it my sis got it lol we learnd

Hey, in the Military, they allow you 3 hits to punish your child...it must be with your hand, and I think it can only show 1 mark... :whistle:

by **InsaneClownVN** » Jul 21st, '06, 10:44

Parents should or a lot of kids will become naughty like me

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